So don’t tell her I’m from Tanzania.’ According to Joshua, a lot of African men pretend to be American so that they can get girls.
Despite that, Joshua has dated several Japanese girls. ’ Andre, the Jamaican man, once received a text from a Japanese girl he had met a couple of days earlier.
One of the things he likes about her is that she doesn’t ask dangerous, leading questions such as ‘Who is this girl in your photo?
When I asked him what kind of advice he would give to western guys, he said ‘Don’t find them in a bar.’ James remembers meeting a Japanese girl in an Irish pub in Tokyo. He still liked her, so he decided to give it another try. (He says that rock musicians tend to not pay attention to clothes.) She and Charles hit it off well, and they exchanged contact details. In fact, she didn’t have any interest in western culture. He got tickets for a concert of UA, her favourite Japanese artist, and asked her to come. They have now been together for one and a half years.
He dated her, but then he found out she had been cheating on him. Everything seemed fine this time, but one day, she suddenly broke up with him. Unlike other musicians, she didn’t listen to American or British music. Danuja seems to like to take time to get to know the girl first before dating her and that seems to work well with some Japanese girls.
But if you want to leave, let’s leave,’ his girlfriend said.
Often, she would say something she didn’t mean, and Andre took her literally. Some of the women who frequent them are looking specifically for western men and not all of them are looking for a long-term (or honest) relationship.
Compared to the Russian women he dated, Frank finds her very accommodating.
For instance, when he wants to see a certain film, she usually goes with what he wants.Andre talked to his friend about what had happened. It turned out that she had never had any intention of having a boyfriend: she just wanted to have sex. Kenny, a Canadian man, met a lot of Japanese women in Tokyo who showed intense interest in him. ‘When I went out to clubs, it was like shooting fish in a barrel.’ Kenny didn’t mention that he was married (to a Japanese woman) and looking for sexual intimacy that his marriage didn’t provide.‘You know, she did the same thing to me,’ Andre said. Frank, an American man, dated many Russian women before meeting his current Japanese girlfriend.When he tells university girls that he is from Kenya, many of them just remark, ‘Is that in Africa? When they learn that Joshua isn’t from the states, they quickly lose interest.Once, his Tanzanian friend told him, ‘Hey, I’m meeting this girl and I’ve told her I’m from the US.In Japan, people tend to rely on non-verbal cues more than the literal meaning of messages. There’s nothing wrong with short-term dating and hook-ups.